COMMUNICATION: A VERY NECESSARY INGREDIENT FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

COMMUNICATION: A VERY NECESSARY INGREDIENT FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

More than 90% of cases I have handled among couples have been as a result of “lack of communication”. Unfortunately most couples do not realize this until pretty late when the damage must have been very severe and the situation gets out of hand.

Communication is very important at every level of relationship and once a couple is able to work on their communication skills, then they are on their way to having a very healthy and long lasting relationship. I’m going to share a few tips on how learning effective communication tips can improve the vitality of your relationships.

I’ll love to quickly define the word “communication” before I share the tips.                    

“Communication is defined as the transfer of information from one person to another. There are many ways of communicating with people around us such as speaking personally, using signs languages, telephone conversation, letters etc.

1.      GOOD COMMUNICATION STRENGTHENS THE LEVEL OF TRUST, HONESTY AND  RESPECT

Learning to communicate effectively with your partner will strengthen the trust, honesty and respect you have for each other and for the relationship.

Being honest with your partner about your weaknesses is a sign of effectively communicating with them as you’re saying “this is who I truly am” and it in turn builds trust. This is extremely important because it acts as the judge jury who has the final say on whether the relationship lives or dies.

Please note that being able to communicate effectively is very likely to stop needless arguments which occur regularly in relationships.

   

2.      CHECKS CHAINS OF PROBLEMS

When communication is not effective in your relationship, you find yourselves in chains of problems. This may be as a result of unshared challenges, wrong impression of each other, wrong interpretation of your actions or burdens you just refuse to share.  By buckling any of these up, you may just be contributing to the death of your most cherished relationship. So talk about that thing you feel is not right about your partner and share how you feel, then sit back and watch the pair of you enjoy your relationship.

3.      DICTATES MORALE IN A RELATIONSHIP

Being able to effectively communicate in a relationship is the perfect way to show your partner how happy you are within it. Being tight-lipped in a relationship will only hurt your partner and your relationship in the long run. Be as expressive as you can and you will be amazed at the results you’re very likely to get.

4.      SUPPORTING YOUR PARTNER

When you start dating someone, the initial stage is physical attraction, then comes infatuation, then concern and later a sense of responsibility towards each other. In order to reach this stage of responsibility in a relationship, you need to build a strong bond of trust which will enable you support each other. Talk openly with your partner and create space where he/she can share his feelings with you.

This is because the more openly you speak to each other, the closer you become. And this will most definitely make it easier to share both good and bad things in your lives.

It is very essential that your partner feels safe and assured when you are in a relationship, because both of you sort of depend on each other and this can only happen when communication is healthy.

5.      LOVE AND CARE

This is the most important aspect of a relationship so another reason why communication is important in a relationship is because it is a means to earn each other’s love and respect. When in a relationship, it is natural to expect some things from your partner and often the things you would naturally expect are love and care. With an effective communication skill, you can make yourself clear about what you want from the relationship. Once both of you know what the other expects from the relationship, then maintaining it is no longer difficult.

Fights and arguments are also a form of communication (so do not shy away from these) and they could most definitely bring out the negative in both of you. This form of communication too in a way proves useful, as you realize what is wrong and can then try to make it right. Without communication, there is no clarity of what is going wrong and where, and consequently there isn’t much that can be done to better the relationship.  And this way, it is very easy to identify the red flag in a relationship.

Now you know the importance of communication in a relationship. And by now you must have realized if something is wrong in yours. So go on! Speak up! Talk it out! Express! Discuss! Communicate and make your relationship happier and healthier!!!